Stare At Your Reflection

Some will not see the mirror image of their own reflection until that mirror is already broken. When you stare at your reflection long enough, you can see your imperfections. Don't allow anyone to continuously point out your imperfections once you have acknowledged yours, and they still haven't.

Know Your Beauty

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Every woman has a moment that seems to be her darkest moments, but real beauty does not shine until you break away from an ugly situation.

Stepping Back

Don't be embarrassed when you stumble backwards. Accept the fact that you fell, shake yourself off, and keep walking. Its not about how hard you fall, but about how long it takes you to pick yourself up again.

Deceit

Vicious words can lead to a malicious perception, but deceit can only be seen if deceit is in the heart.

Real Friends, Stay Real Friends

No can make your real friends believe a truth that they don't already know about you. A real friend has endured your struggles, a real friends has endured your pain, a real friend has seen the destruction in anger. If a friend can become your enemy by the utterance of mere words, then why did you put that much value in this person to call them the word friend.

Dress For The Occassion

We sometimes allow our personal feelings to reflect our outward appearance. In doing this, we are only inhibiting those personal feelings to stay in our mindset. Get out of bed and get dressed. No one will see your worth until you start to show it to yourself.

Hold Your Tounge

As woman we can sometimes allow our mouths to get us in trouble, whether its through petty gossip or spontaneous eruptions of unreasonable thought. Gossiping has no advantages, it only feeds a jealous foe and only anger stands in front of jealousy. Unreasonable thought only lashes back with reasonable correction. Be quiet. Silence really is golden.

Who Knows You

No one can understand the complexities of the mind if the perception has been manipulated.

Don't Look Back

When you look back, your only looking for, what if. What if I’m wrong, what if this is a mistake, what if I’m missing out on an opportunity? But if you’re contemplating walking away, you should already know the answer.

Relax

We sometimes spend more time trying to impress others, and less time trying to understand why we feel the need to impress. Why make someone important enough to disrupt your life. Relax. If they were a significant piece in your life, you wouldn’t need their approval.

Day To Day

Day to day we wake up with anticipation for the unknown, but how can you anticipate something when your routine has not changed? If everyday is the same, whose hope are you waiting for? Whose dreams have you eluded? Failure is an option if you never try to succeed.

Follow Your Own Path

We sometimes look to each other for inspiration. But don't confuse inspiration with imitation. Realize the reason why your paths may have crossed. Each path has its own roadblocks. If you are barely sustaining the strengths of your own roadblocks, don't pump yourself up to take on someone else’s.

Selfless Hurts

Sometimes the pain we have inflicted on others, hurts deeper than the pain inflicted on you. Some hurts cannot be rectified. Some things cannot be mended. Intentional hurts during remorse can seem selfish but in the end it will be seen as for the best. Attempting to mend an already broken relationship over remorse is selfish. You only fill guilty once you realized the amount of pain you inflicted. If a person is in your past, they are just in your past. If reliving the good moments only makes you relive the bad, then why continue to repeat the vicious cycle. True love for another is learning when to not try to fix what’s already broken.

Stop and Listen

Confusion only happens when you believe certain details in a situation are missing. But the details are only relevant if the picture painted is distorted. The only remedy for confusion is more confusion. Stop looking for the truth and listen for the truth to reveal itself. You'll soon found out the answer your looking for is right in front of you. Open your eyes and stop searching for an inevitable truth. Sometimes, it's better to wait in the dark.

Not What It Seems

As woman we can sometimes allow our imaginations to run wild. We read situations with more emotion than rationale. In doing this we all have come short of the right answer only to be given logical proof that what we are feelings is not valid. We are driven by our emotions, a man cannot relate, your viewpoint may not be valid, but your feelings are still real. Don't let your mind wander aimlessly and lose sight of the truth. If you think something is going on, just wait on someone to bring it to you. You actually may be right, but just don't know it yet. Don't be presumptuous, anyone can tell you how wrong you are if the offense was committed by them and they feel accused.

Recognize Your Adversaries

Your adversaries are the ones who express no remorse behind pain inflicted, whether intentional or not. These people will remain your enemy only if you continue to allow them to inflict pain. You'll always have people that will express their dislike over personal feelings, but if they have taken something personal and they do not know you personally the issue may be bigger than what is being expressed. An enemy will never want to see you happy, so don't believe they do just because you see a smile.

Forgive Yourself and Move On

Don't blame yourself to the point of constant self - criticism, blame yourself for not using common sense in a situation. Forgive yourself for not admitting the truth. You will hurt many people throughout your life, some will forgive you, and some wont. Some will be intentional hurts, and some will be accidental, but if you continue to punish yourself with blame you will always consider yourself to be unforgivable. Some wounds are just scars trying to heal.

Sticks and Stones

Why would you take the words of another so personal as if they are slicing into your soul? How can you make someone understand an emotion that they are not experiencing? They say sticks and stones can break your bones, but words can never hurt you, but what they don't say is words can hurt longer than medically alleviated pain, when a bone breaks. But its not about the level of pain your experiencing, its about the strength it takes to endure it.

No Regrets

What is regret? Regret is only a reason to feel shame and guilt over a situation already experienced. If you have already recovered from the consequence behind your regret, then why continue to punish yourself for the offense. Don't let regrets stop you from moving forward, use the regret as the reason to move forward.

Remember, Don't Forget

Many of us spend more time trying to forget the person we feel has inflicted emotional pain into our lives, but you soon realize that the only thing you forgot is the reason your paths may have crossed. Don't make it a mission to forget everything in order to alleviate pain, because you'll also forget the reasons why you didn't make it to " happily ever after." Remember the good and the bad; you'll never know if your repeating a bad habit, if you forget about all the warning signs you missed along the way.

Anger Is Cruel and Fury Is Overwhelming

Anger is only the heart experiencing the element of surprise. The reality that you allowed yourself to be in a position of sudden surprise is what misguides that anger. The heart is proud and our minds are boastful, but if you can’t fully comprehend the chidlike nature of the heart, why allow your mind to accept its choice as fact. If you chastise a child for eating too much candy, and the child’s disobedience leads to a tummy ache, then why would you be shocked when the child reveals their secret, unbeknownst to you, that candy was the culprit behind their agonizing pain. Can you honestly say you would be surprised? Sometimes we allow our hearts to overshadow our own logic. The logical reason for kids to eat candy until their stomach aches is because children like to eat candy. You can't expect the heart to learn a valuable lesson if it has not felt the ache behind the decision it made that you chose to follow. Some lessons can only be learned through temporary agonizing pain.

Just Another Situation

Have you ever wondered why you’re always singing the same old songs, just with different melodies? I read a quote that stated, He who covers over an offense promotes love, but if he repeats that offense he despises himself. Some have already learned that the song is not about the melody, but about the linguistic sound that ties it all together.

No Shame, No Pain

Shame. So many of us have shameful moments in our lives that we try to hide and bury beneath a mountain. What we don't seem to realize is that the mountain is only made of feathers, and a small gust of wind can make your once majestic mountain, look like a field of salt. Why feel ashamed for a decision you made? Why allow anyone else to make you feel ashamed of the decisions you made? As women, we often judge each other out of petty disagreements and jealousies. But even though I have fallen victim to the green monster myself, I could never just sit back and watch another women break her stride over a man. I could never see myself choosing the logic of man, over the soul of a woman. A woman's heart is not to tamper with by adolescent notions of what a lifetime would transpire to become. Some woman will fulfill a man's every desire even at the cost of her own moral indications. A real man takes into account a woman's heart; a real man does not take a sacred pearl and crush it. He cherishes it, loves it, adores it, and protects it. Don't disown your fellow sister for falling into the clutches of a man that didn't appreciate the pearl once he opened the clam. There is no reasoning in logic.

When Love Is Not Enough.

When is enough really enough? Time and time again I have made the same mistakes. Looking for love through desperation. Giving more only to be taken for granted only by the manipulation of fear,the fear of loneliness. But I pondered this question, if some women have become aware that the majority of men are looking for the end result that leads to post coital bliss, then why would it be difficult for anyone to believe that some men are aware that most women look for the deeper connection? The truth of reality is a lot harder to accept than the proclamation of a fairy tale.